Well, this whole Martha Boggs kicks Stacey Campfield out of her restaurant thing has been… enlightening, if nothing else.
Apparently, for some people, some discrimination is a-ok so long as they disagree with the person being discriminated against but it should be strictly, legally verboten in any situations they feel appropriate (in other words, logical/internal consistency fail), while those those same people (and others) have no problems misrepresenting other people’s positions and words.
This is me, being genuinely more than a little surprised and disappointed at the whole debacle, and specifically at the behavior of folks who, along with me, have been on the receiving end of the exact same behavior from other folks who wish to strip us of other rights. I imagine there is some appropriate quote that could be fielded in this instance (if nothing else, something about staring contests with really deep holes), but I am just not feeling it at the moment.
What I will do is point out two comments from Martha Boggs, the owner of The Bistro at the Bijou, and the first one may surprise her supporters:
Boggs actually agrees with her critics. She says she handled the situation the wrong way.
"It wasn’t really the right way to do it. It wasn’t the best method. But at least it got something that needed to be discussed, discussed," said Boggs.
[Update] Apparently, according to a robo-email MarkofaFreeMan received from Martha Boggs’ email address, the above blockquote is in error or is a misrepresentation of her words:
Despite what may have been mis-reported in local media I do not regret my actions in the least.
Apparently Martha is content being a hypocritical, discriminatory jackass. So be it. I tend not to visit establishments staffed/run by those. [/Update]
"Passionately" and "heatedly" kicking someone out of your establishment does absolutely nothing to alter the differences of opinion you may be having with that person, and the animosity exposed may, in fact, increase whatever chasm separates the two of you. Damned if I am one to lecture someone else about being dispassionate when it comes to dealing with dicks (and mark me: Stacey Campfield falls under that heading), but more often than not, I am not trying to convert them, only ridicule them; I dare say Martha has different goals in mind.
When it comes to achieving those goals, however, it would help her immensely if she knew what she was talking about. Again, courtesy of Rich, we have a wonderful cherry to go on top of this steaming pile of suck and fail, in the form of a direct quote from Martha:
If there was a group of people, it would be discrimination if it was a group of people. But he is an individual. There was a Ku Klux Klan rally outside my front door last year. I had both sides of those people in here.
To begin with, Martha has already admitted it was discrimination, and "unfair" discrimination at that, so backpeddling at this point is just pathetic. I would have significantly more respect for Martha, especially given my position on discrimination in general (which I could swear I had harped on enough in my previous post on the topic, but I guess "TL;DR" is the internet standard now), if she simply owned up to her actions and moved on.
Second, really? You really want to trot out the "some of my friends are black" defense? God help you.
And, finally, let us examine this word everyone keeps yammering about – discrimination:
1. an act or instance of discriminating.
2. treatment or consideration of, or making a distinction in favor of or against, a person or thing based on the group, class, or category to which that person or thing belongs rather than on individual merit: racial and religious intolerance and discrimination.
3. the power of making fine distinctions; discriminating judgment: She chose the colors with great discrimination.
4. Archaic. something that serves to differentiate.
And since that definition links to discriminate, so shall I:
1. to make a distinction in favor of or against a person or thing on the basis of the group, class, or category to which the person or thing belongs rather than according to actual merit; show partiality: The new law discriminates against foreigners. He discriminates in favor of his relatives.
2. to note or observe a difference; distinguish accurately: to discriminate between things.
In other words, discrimination can only be against an individual. Furthermore, while Stacey’s credibility is not exactly something I would bet anything on, apparently only you and he were privy to your conversation, and he contends that your request for him to leave included something approximating, "You are a homophobe. I am not serving you." If this is true – and your later interviews wherein you state you were "standing up" for homosexuals would tend to substantiate it – your behavior unquestionably meets the definition of "discrimination".
Get over it already.
But, then, I am not one who is dedicated to reducing certain types of discrimination – in fact, as I clearly stated, I am quite comfortable with people and businesses discriminating as they see fit – so I am not trapped in your current, hypocritical position of wanting to reduce discrimination for some people by discriminating against other people. Such a predicament certainly does explain your rationalizations, but it does not excuse them.